What Did You Expect??? By Paul David Tripp
This book is geared equally towards men and women. The format is easy to read, and Tripp writes in an engaging manner that relates to everyone, not just professors!
The underlying theme of this book is how we are our own worst enemy, but for the grace of God! Marriage starts out with plenty of passion and wonderful intentions, but our sin natures will cause it to implode if we’re not careful.
He talks about how marriage is a war of sorts, and that it is extremely important for you and your spouse to be on the same side!
Tripp presents several real counseling situations in order to show the different ways that marriages can get into trouble. When the situation seems to be going sour, we should look at our own motives to see how much of the situation is caused by us.
Tripp doesn’t say we should never talk to our spouse about something they’ve done wrong; quite the contrary! However, did your spouse really do something wrong, or did they just not do it the way you wanted them to?
When you feel upset over how your spouse is treating you, is your displeasure biblically justified, or is the situation upsetting because they didn’t treat you the way you thought they should?
This book was a big eye-opener for me, and helped me to realize my particular faults that would be likely to cause problems in a marriage.
You can find this book online from many sources, including Amazon.
Whether you are single, engaged, married, or divorced, you NEED to read this book. 🙂