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I apologize for not putting out more posts like I promised earlier! Last week was very, very busy and I couldn’t think up a blog post if my life had depended on it! πŸ™‚

Since Sunday is always a “tired” day for us (a good tired, but tired nonetheless!), I decided to do a book review of a book I just finished.

The Family – God’s Weapon for Victory

By: Robert Andrews

This book is one of the best I’ve ever read on the subject of family. That also means that some people would think it was very controversial. That’s ok, I enjoy a bit of controversy, as long as the discussion is edifying. πŸ™‚

Mr. Andrews goes through all the “layers” of a family. In his first chapter named “Laying Foundations”, he talks about how important it is for parents to set a good foundation for their children, and how different kinds of outward influences can hurt them. He is not the “shelter children from everything outside the four walls of our home” type, but he does caution that parents should be more careful about what their children are exposed to.

Throughout the Β rest of the book, he talks about dating/courtship, marriage, and waiting on the Lord in that respect (something I need to read every day!), the importance of having children, and child discipline.

I just finished this book for I think the third time, and it helps me every time I read it! It is so hard to find solidly biblical teaching on family and everything surrounding it, so I consider this book an important resource!

Just a note: there are parts of this book that are not appropriate for younger children. I recommend that parents read this book first and let their teenagers read it with careful guidance.

You can buy it here: The Family – God’s Weapon for Victory, on Amazon. (I don’t receive any compensation from Amazon. I just enjoy buying books from them! :))

If you’ve read this book, I would love to read your thoughts on it!

Homeschooling II

I realized I forgot to mention some other benefits of homeschooling!

Most homeschooling families, both parents and child(ren) have been asked this question: What about socialization?

I’ve always wanted to ask public schoolers this same question. All the homeschooled kids I’ve known have been happy to interact with people of all ages. Most of the public schoolers I’ve known have only wanted to interact with kids their own age. How is that good socialization? I would rather my kids learn how to play with and talk to people of all ages, from babies to senior citizens. As a child, I rarely played with anyone who was my own age. A lot of my friends are younger than me, even today!

Sometimes when people ask about socialization, they mean extra-curricular activities. I don’t have much of an opinion on these, as long as they don’t take over a family’s personal life. Almost every homeschooler I’ve known has been involved in some sort of activity! I, personally, did not partake in many outside activities as a homeschooling child, but there certainly wasn’t a lack of things available, should I have desired to participate in something. πŸ™‚

Homeschooling

Photo courtesy of Felixco, Inc.

I apologize for not posting sooner. I got busy and couldn’t formulate a blog post to save my life! πŸ˜‰

Homeschooling has always been near and dear to my heart. I was always homeschooled, and felt that it helped me be able to learn at the right speed for me, and learn more than if I had been in public school.

My mom isn’t a certified teacher. I don’t know how many times I’ve heard or read someone saying that they “weren’t qualified” to teach their children. That just doesn’t fly with me, or with the vast majority of homeschoolers I know!

Homeschooling doesn’t take a degree in rocket science. You know your children the best, and you know all their little quirks, strengths, and weaknesses. Not every child is wired to learn to read at age 5. Some begin reading at age 2, while others don’t grasp reading until age 10 or even later! Personally, I began reading at age 6-1/2, after working on phonics with my mom for many months beforehand. Just 6 months later, I was reading at a much higher grade level than where my age would have placed me!

The same can be said for the child who learns complex things at a very early age. If your child learns to read at age 2-3, and you put them in kindergarten at age 5, they will be bored stiff. Homeschooling doesn’t have this problem! πŸ™‚ It’s also handy if your child is at different grade levels for different subjects.

Another reason for not homeschooling that I’ve heard many times is “I could never homeschool. My kids and I would be at each other’s throats all the time!” This one in particular makes me sad, because if you can’t get along with your kids, you need to evaluate how you’re disciplining them. If their behavior is so bad that you can’t stand to have them around you every day, then something is wrong.

The last reason I’ll give in favor of homeschooling is this: as parents, you are responsible for what your children are taught when they are at their most impressionable ages. I recommend the book “The Harsh Truth about Public Schools” by Bruce N. Shortt for an eye-opening account of what goes on in most public schools now.

If you want to start reading up on homeschooling, I highly recommend anything written by Mary Pride! She has written many excellent, helpful books on homeschooling (as well as a woman’s role in the home…but that’s another post! :))

I am always looking for websites that are supportive of homeschooling; please feel free to comment with your favorite homeschooling links!

Working on some new posts!

I’ll be working on some new posts during the next several weeks!

The topics will include:

  • Homeschooling
  • Working
  • Modesty
  • Anything else I can think of!

To receive updates when I post something new, click the “sign me up!” button on the upper-right-hand side of the home page. πŸ™‚

Blogging

It’s pretty obvious I have never been a big blogging person. There are a lot of things I’d like to write about, but I don’t know how to word them the way I want. I need some ideas. Is there anything you’d be interested in me blogging about? Leave me a comment with your suggestion(s). πŸ™‚

This is mainly for the ladies, since I happen to be one, but maybe guys can adapt this for themselves. I don’t have any personal experience with marriage (unless going to innumerable weddings counts!) but I think it’s important for single Christian women to take several things to heart when looking for a husband.

I think we can all agree that before getting to know a guy, we find out if he is a solid Christian! 2 Corinthians 6:14 talks about how believers should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.

Now I know that it is a “woman thing” to want to “fix” everything. You know what I mean? For example, someone gets hurt, we want to comfort them and bandage the wound, then feed them tea and chicken soup until they feel better. This is a God-given desire of women. πŸ™‚ It’s a GOOD thing!

However…..(you knew there had to be a catch, right?) there are some situations where we have to squelch that desire. You might meet a guy who seems like the ideal….he’s friendly, helpful, and has a great personality, BUT, he isn’t really interested in Christian things. He doesn’t have any great desire to go to church where he can be fed by the Scriptures and involved in the gathering of believers.

If you are attracted by this guy’s personality, you will start thinking that you can lead him to the Lord, or get him to be interested in Christian things. STOP!

Step back. That is not your job. If you marry a man who doesn’t think the same way you do about Christian things and being a Christian, you will be miserable the rest of your life. See if you can get him involved with a wise, older Christian man. If his viewpoint changes for the better, then you can consider getting to know him. But don’t think that you can fix him yourself! If he will go to church with you, that’s wonderful! Pray that the Lord changes his heart. But again, don’t think that you can fix him yourself.

This is why it is so important to find out certain things about a man before getting to know him more than just casually. It is ideal if your father can find out these things for you, but if your father is not available or interested in this job, please ask, preferably, a husband and wife whom you know to be strong Christians and willing to help you through this adventure! πŸ™‚

I believe the question of Christianity helps other pieces of the puzzle to fall into place fairly easily, but I will also comment on some of the lesser issues that are still important to work through!

What does he think married women should do? Does he think women should work outside the home? If you don’t think a married woman should work outside the home, and he does, you will be in for a surprise once you are married! (I will save the book about whether or not women should work outside the home for another post! :)) What is his view of money?

What about children? What does he think about birth control? Does he consider children a blessing or a burden? How should they be disciplined? Schooled?

Is he responsible? Does he look for things to do, or does he wait for someone else to point them out? How does he treat his family and friends? The way he treats his mother will be the way he treats you!

I’m sure there are a lot more things that could be added to this list, but these are the ones I have thought the most about. Over the years I have seen so many people say that they never discussed things like religion or roles of men and women with their spouses before marriage, and those things became a point of contention 9 times out of 10.

I am not saying you have to know every single tiny thing about a person before daring to get to know them. πŸ˜‰ Some things aren’t relevant to marriage at all! Some things aren’t a big deal, and each of you will just have to learn to overlook or even change your minds on various things that the other does or thinks. After all, we’re all sinners!

It’s just that there are a few things that Christians shouldn’t budge on. Those things are the most controversial, but I promise if you hold your ground, it is a safety net, and a blessing!

A tiny update

I just updated my two “extra” tabs at the top of the page. Just so you know. πŸ™‚